Saturday, April 14, 2012

Day of Me...

I've been having a very rough week.
Things that I've been trying to stay optimistic and positive about were slowly starting to really just weigh me down.
I'm not a naturally optimistic person. I tend to side on the realistic/pessimistic view of life. I feel safer that way.
I tell myself it's so I won't be disappointed.

I tell myself that when I believe nothing good is going to come of any given situation, and something good DOES happen, I'll be that much happier because I wasn't expecting it. Usually, though the negativity breeds negativity so eventually, I'm proven right and disappointed regardless of what I tell myself.

So, being optimistic about gaining new clients and having a baby when there doesn't seem to be any new developments in either category just tends to make me angry after a while.
Does that make sense? No?
Well, I don't know, I guess it's not necessarily the situation that makes me's being optimistic about the eventual outcome with no basis for that thought that makes me upset. It's like I feel lied to, even though it's ME doing the lying.

I constantly have to tell myself to BE optimistic.

Conversations inside my head sometimes sound like this:
"Maybe we'll be pregnant this month!"
"No, it's probably not going to happen, don't get your hopes up for nothing."
"Well, I haven't started a new cycle, maybe that means it might happen."
"Aaaah, but feel that twinge? That's the beginning of the end of this cycle...told ya" (which ended up being the real truth -- my chart)
"God is keeping doors open for you, client wise so that good things will come"
"Maybe, clients aren't calling because they don't like what I have to offer. What if I'm not good enough?"
"It's ok, you don't have to take the first person who asks for a spot...hold out for the perfect fit." "What if the perfect fit doesn't come along soon? I don't want to be waiting for 6 months with no additional income when I can make a few dollars now!"

Ok, so I guess you can see that sometimes it has more to do with a lack of self-confidence...

talking oneself out of the game is a hard habit to break.

I am trying to change. I just am not sure where to start. I've been reading The Happiness Project which is helping me to re-think some things.

Something that I'm trying right now is that every time I think of one thing I DON'T have, I remind myself of two things I DO have. Like, major on my list is that I have a loving and supportive husband and my animals who don't care if I am pretty enough or smart enough or say & do the right thing all the time, they all just love me for me. That's pretty special.

Today, I woke up sick of myself. I wanted out of my own self-induced funk. I decided to be selfish and be treated to a "Day of Me."

I made myself go for a run.

I went and got my eyebrows waxed & a haircut.

Met the hubs for lunch and then got a manicure & a pedicure.

Next, I laid in bed and did nothing but peruse Pinterest & look at my pretty pink toes for 2 hours.

It was nice, it was relaxing, it makes me want to spend MORE money on myself! ha ha!

So, here's to my 'Day of Me' and my pretty pink toenails!

I hope your weekend is wonderful!

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

April Goals & March Check In...

I'm late to check in with my March goals & late to make my April goals. What can I say, it's probably laziness! Anyway for March, I had these goals (green = accomplished, blue= did regularly, but not consistently, red = didn't accomplish):

sweep & vacuum upstairs floors daily.
take temp daily, note on chart.
make bed daily --after my wisdom teeth were removed, I was in bed most of the weekend so didn't see the point, and haven't quite gotten back into the habit.
empty sink daily --I hate dishes...with a passion.
cook/eat at home 6/7 nights
do 3 projects per week for daycare kiddos -- and the reason is, the one 3.5 yo I have was not interested in projects and it was nice out so we played outside all day long.
work on photography every day
read 1 non-romance book: my list
spend time with girlfriends - a couple of phone calls, no face to faces though.
make & keep playgroup dates for daycare -- I made 3 playdates, but they were cancelled by the other party :( 

And now for my April Goals:
sweep & vacuum upstairs daily
get back into daily laundry routine
one field trip (wih daycare) per week
read one book on list
cook/eat at home 6/7 days/nights per week
leave a clean sink every night
make bed daily
make time for girlfriends
run/workout at least 3 days per week